We will start this discussion by highlighting what a man’s role in a marriage and in the family as shown in the pyramid below .
Above are the responsibilities of a man so if you are not ready to do all this things don’t venture into marriage because trust me, you will have huge challenges. Both male and female have their responsibilities to their marriage and home and it is important both partners understand what is is expected from them. For now we will focus on the man.
I have heard several women talk about how they feel when their husbands cannot financially provide to meet the basic needs of the family. Some of their opinions are ok but some are dangerous to a healthy marriage. Before we go into that let us discuss about the different scenerios when men do not provide adequately or at all.
Scenario A : The husband is working hard can provide for his family but decides to spend it elsewhere
Scenario B : Your husband is working hard but cannot earn enough to pay his bills or not getting opportunities
Scenario C: Your husband is lazy and does not make any effort and pushes all the bills to his wife
Scenario D: Your husband works hard and provides for his family
For most women only scenario D deserves respect in the home , but what of scenario B ? , is it his fault that he does not earn enough or cannot get a Job ? He is making a lot of effort but things are not working out for him , that does not make him a bad husband .
For Scenario A and C most people will say they definitely do not deserve the authority and respect of the husband. (I believe both partners deserve respect)
My opinion is this , regardless of what scenario plays out it should not undermine the authority of the husband . You do not need to look far , Look at all the responsibilities of a man and you will realize that because there is a deficiency in one responsibility does not mean he will not be responsible in other aspects .
This is an opinion but i will like readers to share their own views on this sensitive topic.
Next Week we will take each of these responsibilities and see how it affects the husband , the wife and the children.